• ELot commented on the blog post Daily Feminist Cheat Sheet   5 months, 1 week ago · View

    I would love to start seeing Feministing writing about or linking to articles that demonstrate what the reality of “Sex work” is like for the majority of girls and women, not just the group of women who present it as an empowering, healthy, fun job. Because you know what? Those women who say it’s empowering [...]

  • ELot commented on the blog post Solidarity isn’t for women in the middle   6 months, 3 weeks ago · View

    “This framework has helped me greatly to understand what it means to live at the intersection that I do: woman, Latina, white. But I’m still working to allow myself to live outside of the neat categories society boxes us into: person of color, white person. Oppressed, oppressor.” This is a great article, and I really [...]

  • ELot commented on the blog post The Wednesday Weigh-In: Is public shaming a good alternative to incarceration?   7 months, 2 weeks ago · View

    The example you described is certainly different (by U.S. standards) and a great way to empower the victim and hold the perpetrators accountable. While perhaps the washing and kissing of the girl’s feet hold very different weight in Bangladesh culture, I don’t really see this as an example of public shaming. The boys were not [...]

  • ELot commented on the blog post The Wednesday Weigh-In: Is public shaming a good alternative to incarceration?   7 months, 2 weeks ago · View

    No no no no no. Public shaming is a TERRIBLE and counterproductive idea. Shame constricts. It excruciatingly isolating and literally shuts off parts of the brain that would actually allow one to stay open to and learn from an experience. It is an emotion that, when experienced in the body like all other emotions, the [...]

  • ELot commented on the blog post But what about Syria? Why talking about Miley matters   7 months, 2 weeks ago · View

    “But here’s the rub though: culture both reflects and affects public perception of reality, and the way that the bodies of black women were used in that performance has real implications on the bodies of black women specifically and women of color more generally.” Yes!!! This and your examples to illustrate how these are related [...]

  • ELot commented on the blog post Weekly Feminist Reader   7 months, 3 weeks ago · View

    I’m just here to say I always love your WFR…thank you Alexandra!!

  • ELot commented on the blog post Blurring the lines of hetero male fantasies   9 months, 1 week ago · View

    Yeah, the video isn’t demeaning?? Come on. I appreciate the author’s effort in this but Thicke himself said he meant to degrade the women in the video. From Huffington Post: “People say, ‘Hey, do you think this is degrading to women?’ I’m like, ‘Of course it is. What a pleasure it is to degrade a [...]

  • ELot commented on the blog post Kickstarter apologises for allowing and funding super rapey project   9 months, 4 weeks ago · View

    Thanks for the explanation. It’s surprising to me that they wouldn’t read the content of the book before they agreed to fund it. Or at least, as you say, wouldn’t be able to infer it from the project page. Just seems like such an obvious thing to “slip through the cracks”, esp. when their own [...]

  • ELot commented on the blog post Kickstarter apologises for allowing and funding super rapey project   9 months, 4 weeks ago · View

    Great point.

  • ELot commented on the blog post Kickstarter apologises for allowing and funding super rapey project   10 months ago · View

    Maybe I am completely missing something, but I just don’t understand how Hoinsky’s material got approved. They say they never saw it. Well whoever approved it must have read the thing…?

  • ELot commented on the blog post Illinois Republican says black GOP candidate is being pimped   10 months ago · View

    He also harmfully and significantly minimizes the experience of actually having a pimp.

  • ELot commented on the blog post Guy texts unsolicited dick pic, woman sends it to his mother, wins   10 months, 1 week ago · View

    “Do people who have a private conversation, of any kind, through any medium, have an expectation of privacy. Yes, on the whole.” Please see Virginia’s comment above. Where was your voice about protecting privacy when feministing covered Hunter Moore, or the class action lawsuits filed by victims of revenge porn against GoDaddy and Texxxan? Were [...]

  • ELot commented on the blog post A hip hop feminist questions the “male gaze”   10 months, 3 weeks ago · View

    I just want to say this article is really provoking in such a wonderful way. You flipped my feminism on its head, which I think it needed.

  • ELot commented on the blog post “Hookup Culture” does not exist   11 months ago · View

    May I suggest you learn what racism is.

  • ELot commented on the blog post “Hookup Culture” does not exist   11 months, 1 week ago · View

    Truth. And on that note, I’d like to add the reminder that this past week was International Clitoris Awareness Week. http://online.wsj.com/article/PR-CO-20130503-910456.html The article ignores trans folks in its discussion, but it does supply fascinating info on this powerful organ, and this reminder: “Sexual expression brings self-esteem and inner balance, so let’s revere the clitoris in [...]

  • ELot commented on the blog post Here are some female pro athletes who came out years before Jason Collins   11 months, 3 weeks ago · View

    mainstream culture “let’s women go”??? are you effing kidding me. of course different genders are under different pressures and extremes. but do you have any idea what it’s like coming out as a woman? clearly not. please don’t be so quick to discount our experiences and apply blanket and misguided assumptions as to why and [...]

  • ELot commented on the blog post The problem with the Bro-Choice campaign   11 months, 3 weeks ago · View

    Respect and consideration is a given, if that’s what you’re pointing to here. But beyond that, we don’t owe the group that oppresses us anything else. As women we are so conditioned to accommodate men that it unsettles me when I hear us talking about making them feel more comfortable within this movement. We absolutely [...]

  • ELot commented on the blog post The problem with the Bro-Choice campaign   11 months, 4 weeks ago · View

    I agree it’s really important for men to a part of this movement, but why are we so concerned with making them feel comfortable? Certainly, shaming and hostility doesn’t help anyone. But do we work to help white people feel more comfortable in the anti-racism fight, just to bring them on board, for example? Hell [...]

  • ELot commented on the blog post Daily Feminist Cheat Sheet   1 year ago · View

    I appreciate you asking these questions. I’m wondering, though what you mean by, “Women have the right and deserve to have our support even in cases where it’s a friend abusing a stranger, but they have no idea of what they ask of us”. What are we asking of you? To not rape us, not [...]

  • ELot commented on the blog post Let’s get ratchet! Check your privilege at the door   1 year ago · View

    “But being ratchet is only cool when you do it for fun, not if those are valid practices from your lived experiences.” yes yes YES. Love this article. We need more of this. Thank you, Sesali.

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