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Dan L @danl ?

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  • Dan L commented on the blog post Clinton says “culture” is no excuse for female genital mutilation   2 years, 7 months ago · View

    I think Sarah has it right, the two are hard to compare when you look at the degree of destruction done to the person, even if the nature of the procedure is similar. That said I don’t think they’re as far apart for a few reasons. First, the definition of mutilation: “an injury that causes [...]

  • Dan L commented on the blog post All Feminists are my kind of Feminists   3 years, 3 months ago · View

    I appreciate the light being drawn to this with some of the posts recently. I’m a heterosexual white male, and I do what I can to be aware of the privilege that conveys to me. However, I don’t care for sports, I don’t socialize over beer (or drink at all), I don’t have or prioritize [...]

  • Dan L commented on the blog post It’s Not a Game (Even Though It Is)   3 years, 3 months ago · View

    Yeah I’ll throw out there that in my experience, and it’s been a few years since I could call myself a “gamer”, but when I was I’d say most men WANT to believe, in a multiplayer setting, that there are women on the other side of the screen as well. Gaming is a much more [...]

  • Dan L commented on the blog post When did feminists become so cliquey?   3 years, 4 months ago · View

    I agree that this seems to be an opinion that’s becoming less prevalent as a new generation of feminists continues to grow and become more vocal. That said I feel you danced awful close to a judgement of your own when you suggested the reasons behind someone wanting to be a SAHM somehow affect the [...]

  • Dan L commented on the blog post New Found Feminism   3 years, 5 months ago · View

    I don’t think it’s inherently wrong to put your partners needs/desires as a high priority, ergo there’s no reason to feel like a hypocrite. Some partners work because both partners focus on their own needs primarily, others work because each of them focuses on their partner’s needs. Context changes things too, a person may be more [...]

  • Dan L commented on the blog post In defense of niqabs and burqas   3 years, 5 months ago · View

    Great expression of what I think a lot of people are struggling to reconcile right now. I would add one thing to your final summary: “I can both be against the idea that women should wear cumbersome clothing that hides their faces and/or bodies that men don’t have to wear…” I don’t think the last [...]

  • Dan L commented on the blog post Five reasons to ask for consent   3 years, 6 months ago · View

    I’ll have to say in my own experience unequivocal is right. I definitely support the point that ideally in new relationships explicit consent is the least likely to cause emotional and mental harm or stress, and perhaps in time that will become an expectation and those who don’t ask will be the “strange” ones, but [...]

  • Dan L commented on the blog post I’m a woman who hates men   3 years, 6 months ago · View

    alex thank you for supporting Sam. I came here to say something similar but I feel it’s been covered already. I hope the OP finds what she needs to heal and for her life to be exactly the way she desires it to be. I had 2 relationships in a row end very badly, both [...]

  • Dan L commented on the blog post Just because they’re pro-life doesn’t mean they’re sexist   3 years, 6 months ago · View

    While I personally support complete and unimpeded access to and support services around abortion for those who seek them, I think like many people I know people, extended family and people on the peripheries of my social circle who don’t. One thing I don’t generally hear from them, on the rare occasion the subject comes [...]

  • Dan L commented on the blog post Desperately Seeking Sterilization: the politics of privilege   3 years, 6 months ago · View

    Forgot my original thought. I was going to share that I know two like-minded men who also sought sterility. One at age 23 and the other at age 28. Neither had had children and both were met with the same resistance as the original post. Doctors seem to be very hesitant to perform such a [...]

  • Dan L commented on the blog post Desperately Seeking Sterilization: the politics of privilege   3 years, 6 months ago · View

    Missy, I’ve noticed something similar of the women in my own life. I can’t say to what degree societal pressure affects each of them as individuals, but I can say most of the women in my life are both career minded and have support systems of friends and partners who support their career goals. Yet [...]

  • Dan L commented on the blog post Slob Shaming   3 years, 6 months ago · View

    I recall reading Kay Hymowitz’s article, and as a man feeling a bit offended, although not so much as to send in a reply, especially amongst the many more hateful replies she seemed to received. What bothered me more was her trying to coin the term “pre-adulthood”, it didn’t just label men as “slobs”, it [...]

  • Dan L commented on the blog post A woman’s work is never paid   3 years, 6 months ago · View

    That would indeed be an interesting study, both for its own merits and as it relates to the pay gap. I w0rk a few hours a week doing technical support for a small nonprofit who usually has 1 and occasionally 2 interns working for them. In the 10 years I’ve been helping them there’s probably [...]

  • Dan L commented on the blog post Angles On Consent   3 years, 7 months ago · View

    The issue of “retroactively granted” is another issue that could be explored. I realize the term is used humorously here to describe your enthusiasm for the act to continue, but now look at the larger picture of relationships. If you’d had a fight hours prior you might be upset that he would initiate such and [...]

  • Dan L became a registered member   3 years, 7 months ago · View

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