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"@maya As I have been looking around the relatively connected blog sites like feministe, the f-bomb, and a few others, ive noticed a discussion of the concepts of erasure and gaslighting. I was wondering if you had any comments about [...]" · View
  • Matt commented on the blog post One Direction to girls everywhere: your low self-esteem is hot   2 years, 3 months ago · View

    I agree somewhat it sounds like having a boyfriend is portrayed as the most important thing, but make you do a dance can be interpreted many ways. Like you find 20 bucks do the happy dance, you can’t help it because its just so awesome. Blowing money can be interpreted differently too. Going out and [...]

  • Matt commented on the blog post One Direction to girls everywhere: your low self-esteem is hot   2 years, 3 months ago · View

    Glad I am not the only one who thought of that song. I listened to the song after reading the article and I feel like its about not being pretentious and arrogant, like I’m hot and I get my way because of that, as opposed to, I really like that you have no self esteem.

  • Matt commented on the blog post Apple’s Siri and Sexual Violence   2 years, 8 months ago · View

    There are several problems here. Firstly, in the case of searching for information, you should ask a question instead of making a statement. In general chat bots, and that is what Siri is do not respond to statements the way you might think they should. Further, they do not particularly like multiple sentences in one [...]

  • Matt commented on the blog post No Help at All   2 years, 12 months ago · View

    one problem with the movie is that its a movie based on a book. removing the husband is less about racism and more about having a limited amount of time and an audience with limited attention. the book itself may or may not be excessively about a white woman, but the part about the husband [...]

  • Matt commented on the blog post Refusing to Limit Myself   3 years ago · View

    It actually is a question for men. My parents were upset for years about my choice to walk around the area late at night. I was stopped by cops who told me it was dangerous for me to walk around at night, they told me to go home and not do that anymore. It is [...]

  • Matt commented on the blog post How Can You Live As a Feminist?   3 years ago · View

    It doesn’t mean you are smart, just that you had something illuminated for you. I would really like to emphasize this point. Understanding of one aspect of the social structure is not related to general intelligence, or being “smart.” You could be “feminist and smart,” but you can’t be “feminist because you are smart.” A [...]

  • Matt commented on the blog post “It’s That Time of the Month, Isn’t It?”   3 years ago · View

    unequivocal, you can’t address the issue of women’s right to be angry, if you aren’t correctly describing the context. The OP said several things which aren’t true in any way. So you have to discuss those inaccuracies because otherwise they will poison your conclusion, thats how logic works.

  • Matt commented on the blog post “It’s That Time of the Month, Isn’t It?”   3 years ago · View

    You just explained why my statement is so correct…

  • Matt commented on the blog post “It’s That Time of the Month, Isn’t It?”   3 years ago · View

    I’m not sure you understand what I mean by in my experience. I was referring to my initial community social group following certain rules in comparison to say, my later experience in college, and not to my experience as a male. I notice women’s anger being dismissed all the time. As for what about the [...]

  • Matt commented on the blog post “It’s That Time of the Month, Isn’t It?”   3 years ago · View

    I’m not sure why you are reiterating a point that I didn’t argue against. Period humor is everywhere, although most people here seem to experience way more of said jokes made by men as compared to women, compared to my experience. Most of the women getting trolled in politics today are being trolled because they [...]

  • Matt commented on the blog post Sixteen and Feminist   3 years ago · View

    Of course children don’t make their own decisions. Free spirit implies having a spirit. Children absorb varying influences from around them. Form their own opinions, LOL. You don’t understand quantum physics do you? Why do you think that is? Perhaps because it hasn’t been taught to you? So why would an average teenager understand feminism? [...]

  • Matt commented on the blog post The Name Game   3 years ago · View

    Hyphenating your child’s name makes you an asshole. Make up a new name, pick one of your last names, have a blast. Having a hyphenated name blows. Anyone who hyphenates their child’s name doesn’t deserve kids.

  • Matt commented on the blog post “It’s That Time of the Month, Isn’t It?”   3 years ago · View

    Men’s anger is not always engaged in a manner appropriate to the situation. Please generalize more. Because there is nothing wrong with blatantly inaccurate generalizations. Feminism taught me that.

  • Matt commented on the blog post How we talk about feminism matters   3 years, 1 month ago · View

    If you would point out where I was being dismissive and pretentious, rather than merely saying that I was doing so, that would be much more helpful. When I listed a complaint about Feminism I backed it up with examples, rather than just saying, Feminists are this and not bothering to explain, which is what [...]

  • Matt posted an update:   3 years, 1 month ago · View

    @maya As I have been looking around the relatively connected blog sites like feministe, the f-bomb, and a few others, ive noticed a discussion of the concepts of erasure and gaslighting. I was wondering if you had any comments about how these ideas interact with the subjective/objective reality conflict. Subjective reality is based on our imperfect understanding of all the factors in a given interaction. This is especially relevant in regards to people who feel bullied by certain verbal interaction but in turn bully others in this manner. Subjectively I may feel that I am being clever when I use word play or wit to put someone down or ”just tease” them. But they might subjectively feel that I am verbally or socially bullying them. I know this is somewhat rambling, but I had noticed two women on Feministe in the spanking controversy comments section accusing each other of erasure. One was vehement in her belief that spanking was physical abuse and that people who accepted it and said that they loved their parents in spite of tough discipline were in denial. She had been spanked as a child. This other women had been spanked as well and made references to gaslighting and erasure on the former’s part. She did not consider herself to have been abused. And by saying that spanking was not abuse, she caused the other woman to feel erased, because the implication was that the former poster’s experience as being abused by spanking was unreal, and her feeling was the real one. I know that in many feminists’ minds when one person’s subjective reality conflicts with another person’s its default for feminists to side with the subjective reality of the abused/coerced/offended person, such as in the case of rape. If the man or women feels raped then they were raped. But what about the collision of the subjective reality’s of these two passive participants? If one persons views their spanking as abuse and themselves as an abuse survivor, and another person who lived under an incredibly similar spanking policy does not consider themselves an abuse survivor is one or the other erasing the other by saying that spanking is or isn’t abuse? A huge problem I have in understanding feminist concepts is an ideology that is similar to moral relativism. In philosophy its an important critique of moral relativism that essentially anything is acceptable to the relativist because it is considered a cultural norm. This includes things like rape, arranged marriage, genital cutting of both sexes and gender roles. When feminists say that its erasure to tell a person that their subjective experience is wrong, how is that different from moral relativism, which is default anti-feminist in its support of cultural norms as objectively moral behavior in that particular society? We have cases like Stockholm syndrome where its widely accepted that the subjective experience of a kidnapped person is not the reality, that their love of their captor is not okay, and that they should be removed from the situation. How is that different from the cases of FGC, MGC, spanking, other forms of physical abuse and so forth? I just can’t get past the apparent systematic infection of relativism in Feminist thought. I don’t want to bog you down with more examples, but there are thousands more I could list off the top of my head.

  • Matt commented on the blog post How we talk about feminism matters   3 years, 1 month ago · View

    The problem with Feminism with a capital F is that a lot of its adherents and proponents demonstrate some special kinds of privilege. One of the biggest is ideological privilege. They identify as Feminist and they equate that identification with being morally superior. If I say I’m not a Feminist, they ask two questions, do [...]

  • Matt commented on the blog post “Hot Coffee” and rape survival   3 years, 1 month ago · View

    This is a classic case of not signing contracts you don’t read.

  • Should I feed the troll? I’m not sure.

  • Matt commented on the blog post A Personal Open Letter to a Dear Friend   3 years, 1 month ago · View

    “I could hypothetically just attribute any given choice that I might disagree with to “negative societal stimuli” or something similar.” If you really understood neurology and sociology and economics as you claim you wouldn’t even be talking about all these silly “choice” arguments. Honestly you must be religious or know religious people, because only through [...]

  • Matt commented on the blog post A Personal Open Letter to a Dear Friend   3 years, 1 month ago · View

    It seems like you are shocked that counter cultures have behavioral rules. The definition of culture is: “The set of shared attitudes, values, goals, and practices that characterizes an institution, organization or group.” The basis of the social contract is that we all agree to a set of acceptable actions. You might complain that YOU [...]

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