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Heidi @blondeintokyo ?

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  • Heidi commented on the blog post Why using lube can help you become a better feminist   1 month, 1 week ago · View

    Well, I don’t use lube because I just happen to be one of those women who doesn’t need it. Does that make me a bad feminist? Or does the fact that I use vibrators and masturbate frequently make up for the fact that I don’t use lube, so it all gets evened out? I mean, [...]

  • Heidi commented on the blog post Polyamory: we’re not doing it wrong   1 year ago · View

    Why is it that so many people don’t seem to understand that polyamory and polygamy are two completely different and utterly unrelated things? The author of the Guardian article uses both terms interchangeably, and the author of this blog post doesn’t even attempt to correct this mistake. Nothing irritates me more than people who are [...]

  • Heidi commented on the blog post Gender essentialism and the feminist housewife   1 year, 6 months ago · View

    I hear you, Laura. I’m going to be 40 soon, and I feel the same way about kids that you do. Not only do I not want kids, I’m also not the slightest bit interested in marriage. I’m in a great poly relationship that I expect to last for a long time, and it suits [...]

  • Heidi commented on the blog post Hey gorgeous, nice tits!   2 years, 3 months ago · View

    You are exactly right to be cautious about men who hit on you on the street, especially in a foreign country where you don’t speak the language well and don’t have a support system of people you can call on for help. There are men who prey on young female tourists, and they do it [...]

  • Heidi commented on the blog post Catcalling   2 years, 5 months ago · View

    No one is trying to force you to agree with the writer’s point of view. The writer isn’t even talking about you- she’s talking about herself, how she personally feels. If you don’t agree, fine- just move on and realize this article doesn’t apply to you.

  • Heidi commented on the blog post Nobody even bothered to help, they just watched in silence.   3 years ago · View

    What happened after that? Did they finally just get bored and stop, or did you end up getting security to help you? I wish I had been there. You would have had my help, for sure. If anything like this happens again, try looking around at the people nearby and make eye contract with them- [...]

  • Heidi commented on the blog post American Girl in Italy Part 3: Dear Co Worker   3 years, 4 months ago · View

    I hope you give him a copy of this. Don’t let him get away with what he’s doing. I live in Japan, another culture where feminism has barely arrived. I often have to speak up to the men (and women!) regarding the appropriateness of their words and actions. I am sometimes told, “But in Japan…” [...]

  • Heidi commented on the blog post I am not my hair   3 years, 4 months ago · View

    Honestly? I think you are way over-thinking this. Do you seriously think your friends will be so offended by your hairy legs that it will alienate them? If that’s really the case, then I think you need to make new friends. :) I shave because *I* like how it feels. I actually only shave once [...]

  • Heidi commented on the blog post The Wednesday Weigh-In: sex, lies, and no scales necessary   3 years, 4 months ago · View

    I am a sex positive feminist, and I’m ALWAYS honest about sex. I have no trouble at all taking about sex to anybody, and that includes my mother, my boyfriend, my friends…anyone, everyone. I also love talking about sex or sexual politics. If I’m present, the conversation will always end up being steered in that [...]

  • I’d like to know why women are being told that if a guy looks at another woman or uses porn, it’s because she’s not good enough. There we have a problem- the problem isn’t that men like porn or like to look at other women. They are human, and humans are sexual creatures. Women like [...]

  • Heidi commented on the blog post Rihanna Bringing Kink to the Mainstream?   3 years, 7 months ago · View

    People who find homosexuality taboo are likely to find BDSM taboo as well. Is that meant to be more shocking than the guy in rubber being walked on a leash, or the lyrics about getting excited about whips and chains? I can’t see anyone accepting the other imagery and then getting hysterical over a faux [...]

  • Heidi commented on the blog post Light skin vs. dark skin party promoters attempt to ruin it for the rest of us   3 years, 8 months ago · View

    That’s just as stupid as the “bikini nights” I’ve seen being promoted. When the guys all show up in speedos, I’ll consider wearing a bikini. For a fun night out, nothing beats gay clubs. I never bother going to normal bars anymore, I can’t be bothered to deal with all the grabby hands and stupid [...]

  • Heidi became a registered member   4 years ago · View

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