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Queer and Questioning

I never questioned my sexuality until I was in university. I was privileged enough to feel comfortable with society’s prescribed heterosexuality. It was feminism and a general commitment to being open minded that made me wonder how ‘straight’ I really was. (It’s true then, feminists are all lesbians and they are trying to convert!)

Then I began a relationship with a man. As we are both cis gendered I was, for the most part, perceived as straight.   I did not challenge the privilege that came with such assumptions. I had identified with the term ‘heterosexual’ for so many years that I rationalized not coming out because it would ‘just confuse people’. I also told myself that ‘its private, I shouldn’t feel obligated’. My closest friend and my partner knew so why tell more people?

I hid under this rock for years.