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Living The Dream (With A Man)

Some men have perceived the feminist movement as a great injustice to their rights to be served dinner, have the house vacuumed more than once every two weeks and their feet rubbed frequently (among other things).    It is no secret that women’s financial independence and access to financial power has redefined the American family and how it functions. The feminist movement is credited for opened doors for women to reach their fullest potentional. This process has been blamed for the “breakdown” of the traditional family. However, this popular complaint lacks a certain degree of perspective.   I liken the disruption to the traditional male/female roles in society and family to one big “growing pang”. Wars do far more damage with less benefits to society than the feminist movement. Countries that limit feminine influence to “inside the home only” tend to look a lot like North Korea, Iran, Afghanistan, Somalia, etc. (i.e. the worst countries in the world).   Feminism has produced an interesting male/female dynamic. While women take on life in a world with “equal opportunities”,we are struggling to ligitimize the myth that women and men “are equal”.    That’s right, men and women will never “be equal”.    The term “equal in rights, dignity and opportunities” has evolved into the presumption that if women and men do the same things, they will automatically carry the same emotions, characteristics, physical abilities, desires and sexual interests.    The goal for “being equal” has created wide-ranging opportunities for all but failed to make social and economic accomodations for gender differences that will be with us for all time.     With so much focus on attaining the rights previously enjoyed by men, we seem to be convinced that we should leave our womanhood and motherhood at the door of our houses. The strengths of both the feminine and masculine — regardless of gender assignments — are rarely exploited in ...

Living The Dream (Like A Man)

I must confess that I am wrestling with a certain angst. The word “feminist” has gotten me down. It has been my good fortune to know a life of limitless possibilities. Save for the time I was booted from a baseball game for being a girl, any gender bias that came my way was not very obvious.  And okay, I admit it — I was a terrible ball player. Today, my life would fit a traditional mold of male success. I have lived with every freedom and every opportunity once reserved only for men. I earned an independent living, owned property and invested money. I lived in beautiful places. I was a lover, a partner, a friend. I was a traveler. I have lived a life that men dream of living.
I must confess that I am wrestling with a certain angst. The word “feminist” has gotten me down. It has been my good fortune to know a life of limitless possibilities. Save for the time I was booted from a baseball game for being a ...