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Wedding and baby showers should be co-ed affairs

This was originally published in the Women’s Issues blog on MySanAntonio.com.

Last weekend I attended – pardon, co-hosted – a baby shower to celebrate the upcoming arrival of a dear friend’s first child. With just those details alone, you can probably envision the event with surprising accuracy: the cupcakes, the pastel-wrapped gifts, the punch bowl (non-alcoholic, of course) and the summery, yet modest, dresses.

Just a guess: you likely were picturing the shower guests all being of one particular gender, right?

Baby and wedding showers have a well-established tradition of women-only guest lists. In a time when people rarely get together for formally-scheduled events – much less with snail mail invites, RSVPs and trays of finger foods – showers are some of the rare opportunities to resurrect the social propriety of years past. Like tea parties, for grown ups.

And that’s exactly what these traditional showers feel like – grown-up women playing some kind of unspoken pretend dress-up game. The on-command “oooh”-ing and “aaah”ing at the opening of gifts containing diapers and onesies or blenders and coffee pots. The feigned interest in discussions about baby care and cake batter mixing. The mutually-understood dress code of skirts and cardigans.

The baffling part about it all is that many women don’t particularly enjoy these events, and the traditional showers do not do justice to what the real goal should be: celebrating a couple’s upcoming wedding or the impending birth of a new baby. To the best of my understanding, it ...

The last acceptable form of bigotry

Originally posted on MySanAntonio.com.

Unless you’ve been living under a rock for the past week, you’ve heard about the remarks a certain ultra-conservative radio host made about a female law student who testified before Congress about the importance of insurance-covered contraceptives.

The backlash against the pundit’s comments has been considerable, even forcing many (nine, at present)(update: 12, and two radio stations) of his program’s advertisers to withdraw their financial support. Only after several days of condemnation from the media, politicians, and the public did the radio personality do a 180 on his position and switch from staunchly defending his remarks to issuing a stale, typed apology.

Among the insults hurled at the woman were that she was a ‘slut’ and a ‘prostitute’ ...

Originally posted on MySanAntonio.com.

Unless you’ve been living under a rock for the past week, you’ve heard about the remarks a certain ultra-conservative radio host made about a female law student who testified before Congress about the importance ...