Posts Written by mishakitty

My Friend is in a Two-Way Abusive Relationship

So I don’t exactly know what to do. I have this friend that I’ve known for literally around 16-17 years now. He’s like a brother to me but the truth is that in the past year or so we’ve had a bit of a falling out. We used to be best friends but we’re not as close anymore. It’s a long story but basically I started getting more and more annoyed at his treatment of women and his treatment of me (I’m also a woman) and gave him several warnings about it. I told him if he didn’t change his ways we could no longer be close. Well, he didn’t change so our friendship changed instead.

Like I said, he is like a brother to me, so many years of friendship will do that, but the certain best friend-like closeness is just not there anymore. In fact, we’re not even really that close now (trust me, if you heard some of the stuff that had come out of his mouth in the last year you’d know why), but I do still care about him. But anyway, this is the problem. He’s in a relationship with this girl and it’s not good. In fact it’s very bad. I would call it abusive definitely. On both sides.

But Guy Stalkers are Just Being Sweet!

Why is it that when a girl calls or texts a guy over and over again, one that she doesn’t know that well or she’s just met, she’s thought of as being “crazy” or “obsessive?” She’s called things like “psycho” and “stalker?” Yet when a guy does the exact same thing with a girl he has just met, he is not called the same names or thought of in the same way? Instead it’s “oh he must really like you” or “how sweet and attentive!” What kind of double standard bullshit is this?
Unfortunately I have just dealt with the latter first hand. I met a guy literally last weekend. He seemed very nice at first. He was interesting, we ...

Why is it that when a girl calls or texts a guy over and over again, one that she doesn’t know that well or she’s just met, she’s thought of as being “crazy” or “obsessive?” She’s called ...

Women Can’t “Have It All”

So this is just a quick post but this really irritated me. I read the EW.com website regularly because I’m an entertainment junkie of sorts. I just love movies and television. And analyzing it as much as I can of course. But the other day I was reading the PopWatch Blog and this article caught my eye.
I was first noticing how discouraging it was that there were only 2 women on that list at all (maybe that says something about the PARTS available for women, eh? and don’t get me started about the lack of WOC on here!) But then my eyes saw red when the author, Mandi Bierly, decided to turn up the sexism dial and make ...

So this is just a quick post but this really irritated me. I read the EW.com website regularly because I’m an entertainment junkie of sorts. I just love movies and television. And analyzing it as much as ...

My Rapist “Friended” Me on Facebook

Trigger Warning
The title is pretty much exactly how it sounds. It’s ridiculous. It’s horrible. It’s scary. And now I’m just…I don’t know.
Some quick background: I was raped 9 years ago by this guy. I guess one could call it date rape. He was a guy I knew; I liked him at the time. It was just oral that he forced me to do (as if that makes it better somehow). It took me a while to realize it was rape. I never reported it or told many people about it until much later, like several years later.
But it doesn’t really matter exactly how the rape happened or anything because the point is he raped me. He’s a ...

Trigger Warning
The title is pretty much exactly how it sounds. It’s ridiculous. It’s horrible. It’s scary. And now I’m just…I don’t know.
Some quick background: I was raped 9 years ago by this guy. I guess ...

Single on Valentine’s Day?

So it’s Valentine’s Day again and I’m single. Yup, me, a heterosexual women does not have a boyfriend or a date to mark this occasion with. What to do?

According to movies, tv shows and advertisements, I guess I have two choices: get all emotional over the fact that I’m alone, lock myself away for the whole weekend and wallow in self-pity or throw some wild man-hating girls-only party to celebrate how much I hate Valentine’s Day. That’s right, those are the options. I either despise the holiday and everything it symbolizes (which in most movies it’s revealed that the only reason the women hates the holiday is because she is in fact alone, but once she gets a man all’s ...

So it’s Valentine’s Day again and I’m single. Yup, me, a heterosexual women does not have a boyfriend or a date to mark this occasion with. What to do?

According to movies, tv shows and advertisements, I guess ...