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By lynne-c. • 14 years ago

That Girl

*STRONG TRIGGER WARNING*

Contents deal with domestic violence.

After the whole ordeal, the questions came: “Why didn’t I call the police?” My hands were on the phone, fingers were dialing, but almost deliberately avoiding the 9 and the 1.  “Why did I stay?”  “Why didn’t I leave the first two times it happened?”  “What could I have done differently?”  “What if I ran faster?”  All these things.  But why didn’t I leave?  Especially after I had warned him that the next time he had his hands on my neck, it would be the last? 

All of these questions were geared towards me, what I could have or couldn’t have done.  They were just lyrics to an even deeper tune of shame.  I kept telling myself “I’m not that girl” but that’s when it hit me.  What is “that” girl?  The shame I feel seems to paint itself in a tired face, a disheveled and broken down female.  And that is the problem with society today.  It is not in the laws, the could-have-done’s, the should-have-done’s, or the what-ifs.  It is in the conventional attitude society has established,  where we deflect our anger and animosity.  It places the face of the victim at the forefront, for the world to see, and the abuser remains a shadow on a building.  In the cases of man on woman abuse, it seems to be the only time we see a man reduced to body parts, on posters or TV: a ...
By lynne-c. • 14 years ago

How the PUA Community Turns Women Into Commodities

When I’m standing in line at the grocery store, I usually can’t help but notice the covers of the magazines on the stand. Most are the standard photoshopped pictures of female celebrities with attached slogans like: “Lose 10 pounds NOW,” “Get a beach belly by summer,” or “Tone those abbs” etc. For a long time I thought to myself that it was only women doing this to each other, some perception of what we think is beautiful, and so we strive for it, because the few men I had been with in my life couldn’t care less if I went a few days without shaving, or just threw on some sweats and threw my hair back in a ...

When I’m standing in line at the grocery store, I usually can’t help but notice the covers of the magazines on the stand. Most are the standard photoshopped pictures of female celebrities with attached slogans like: ...
By lynne-c. • 14 years ago

When Someone You’ve Always looked Up To Turns Out To Be a Misogynist.

I really don’t have much time, so I will have to keep this post short and simple.  I did want to pose a question to everyone here concerning something I have always struggled with.  I wanted to maybe hear if others have dealt with the same thing, and if so, how they managed to deal with it. 

I tend to look up to people, to idolize, praise, aspire to be like them, etc.  Yet, being a feminist, I find that I have looked up to people who didn’t always feel the same way I did about the equality of women.  I wasn’t always aware that I was doing it, of course.  Some of these people, it turns out, didn’t even respect ...

I really don’t have much time, so I will have to keep this post short and simple.  I did want to pose a question to everyone here concerning something I have always struggled with.  I wanted to ...
By lynne-c. • 14 years ago

A Poem

Knowing the pain attached to not being able to publicly express or seal the love for a partner due to gender, race, culture, or religion, etc, I was compelled to write about it. It is a bit rebellious, and amateur; but I wanted to share it in hopes that it might make someone feel better. I hope you like it, and I hope it doesn’t offend anyone. My apologies if it does. It is certainly not intended.
Our Silent, Sinful Vows
She said “lets run into town and do it as the sun rises.”
The chests of cathedrals heaved high–
denied our entrance
as the dawn filled with color from behind;
the clouds still thick ...

Knowing the pain attached to not being able to publicly express or seal the love for a partner due to gender, race, culture, or religion, etc, I was compelled to write about it. It is ...
By lynne-c. • 14 years ago

Big Hips Equal Intelligence

That’s right. I was feeling under the weather today, and the fact that’s I’ve been so neglectful of my physical needs, I decided to do a google search on good exercises for hips and thighs (since that is where I store most of my weight). I was scrolling along when a headline caught my attention. I clicked on it, and got this article. It turns out, a study conducted by researchers from the universities of Pittsburgh, and California resulted in the findings that women with a larger hip to waist ratio stores more fatty omega 3 acids, resulting in better brain growth, and is found to be more intelligent than her counterparts.
Obviously this does not ...

That’s right. I was feeling under the weather today, and the fact that’s I’ve been so neglectful of my physical needs, I decided to do a google search on good exercises for hips and thighs (since ...
By lynne-c. • 15 years ago

On a Lighter Note


But relevant, I believe, to this board simply because of its very nature.
Yes, I know this is all over the Internet, but I wanted to point out how this talented, charming, and confident woman walked out onto stage that night with a complete disregard for any bias that may have been lurking in the audience. Unless this clip was edited, it appears that people almost immediately made snap judgments based upon her appearance, age, and the fact that she had an air of spunkiness, and confidence to her.
It seems to be the thing today, and particularly among females, that if you’re not thin, slender, or carry yourself a certain way, that you’re simply made ...


But relevant, I believe, to this board simply because of its very nature.
Yes, I know this is all over the Internet, but I wanted to point out how this talented, charming, and confident ...
By lynne-c. • 15 years ago

Offensive Stripper T-Shirt

I saw this t-shirt on a rack outside of an outlet store downtown the other day. Now, it is not the first time I have seen this t shirt floating around. Of course I have run into a ton of offensive t shirts before, and arguing every single one of them is futile, but this particular one irks me more than the others.
I have my own reservations and perceptions of the world of stripping, and I don’t wish this to be a debate about that in general, but I feel that this t shirt is offensive to women in the industry either way. Apparently, though, not many think so, as I have googled the slogan ...

I saw this t-shirt on a rack outside of an outlet store downtown the other day. Now, it is not the first time I have seen this t shirt floating around. Of course I ...

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