lilithland

I am a blogger who has a site exploring female sexuality from a sociocultural standpoint. My site (http://www.lilithland.net) looks at gender politics, history, news events, and research in the field of female psychology. I am currently writing a book on female sexual dissatisfaction/dysfunction and I cam completing a dissertation for my Ph.D. in this area.

Posts Written by lilithland

By lilithland • 13 years ago

Dating Adventures at Mid-life: What the *&^% Am I Doing on Match.com?

So, my tentative New Year’s resolution is to get my hands out of my own pants and down someone else’s.

I say tentative because I have been down the slippery path of online dating before – and I know what I’m in for. Nonetheless, I have decided to dust off my old Match.com profile and try this cyberdating thing once again. Maybe.

As you can see, I am rather conflicted about the whole thing. My experience with online dating has been a mixed bag. I have been on a few sites such as OKCupid and Yahoo Personals, but frankly my “best” experience has been with Match. And that is a highly qualified “best”.

By lilithland • 13 years ago

Why Women Fake Orgasms

The publication of one the largest sex studies (The National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior) in recent years has once again revealed an orgasm discrepancy between men and women. The media has been especially riveted by the news reports that while 85% of men reported that their female partners had an orgasm during their last sexual encounter, only 64% of women claimed that they actually did have an orgasm.

I think we all smell a rat here. Of course, this doesn’t make a lot of sense, unless the lady has engaged in a little play-acting. Blanche DuBois once said that “… a woman’s charm is 50% illusion” – apparently, so is her ...

By lilithland • 13 years ago

Taking Female Sexuality Out of the “Male” Box

I just finished reading some of the posts at the apparently defunct blog Ways Women Orgasm Forum, and I was deeply moved by some of the things that the author, Jane, had to say. Probably, because I have experienced some of these issues myself.

She describes herself as “bitterly disappointed when sex did not deliver the easy arousal portrayed in erotic fiction.” In spite, of the fact that she was able to have orgasms during masturbation, she found sex with a partner to be a real challenge and reported that she “never felt anything like the same sexual arousal during sex with a lover.”

For many years, I suffered the same problem ...

I just finished reading some of the posts at the apparently defunct blog Ways Women Orgasm Forum, and I was deeply moved by some of the things that the author, Jane, had to say. ...

By lilithland • 13 years ago

Smile, Baby, Smile – And While You’re at it, Bring Me a Beer

Okay, I have to share an incident that happened to me a few weeks ago. I was having dinner with a friend on her birthday, and we stopped by a bar that had outdoor seating. Anyway, we were just two single ladies minding our own business when a group of people, including this guy, sat down next to us.

My friend and the man spoke briefly, and then he turned to me and commanded that I “smile”. Practically, the first words out of his mouth. The guy didn’t know me from Adam’s house-cat.

Now, I wasn’t frowning or anything, just sitting there with a neutral expression. This has happened to me over and over ...

Okay, I have to share an incident that happened to me a few weeks ago. I was having dinner with a friend on her birthday, and we stopped by a bar that had outdoor ...