Chanda Causer

I am an all around swell person who enjoys creative and reflective writing. If you enjoy my feministing articles, I encourage you to visit www.causereaction.blogspot.com! I am awesome and you should tell your friends to get down with my awesomeness!

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By Chanda Causer • 11 years ago

Bob, is Sally helping you with the kids?

The term “working mom” is sexist and I die a little every time someone asks me if I have a job or do I take care of my daughter. I mean, do you ask men the same question? “Hi Bob, how goes the work/home life balance with your newborn? Are you able to manage it all? Is Sally helping you out?” Or, better yet, “Frank is such a go-getter, I could never imagine leaving my child with someone else, but those career dads are something special!”

No? You don’t? Too bad, because you certainly should. I mean – shouldn’t men also experience the daily mind-mashup that a lot of working/nonworking moms experience? Just consider the level of anxiety that some women face when being bombarded with those sorts of personal “small talk” questions. It is like playing Russian roulette, you never know when a toss away question, like “Can you meet us up for happy hour or do you need to get home to your child?”- could elicit a reaction equivalent to “I will cut you if you don’t back off!”

While I jest, the theme of working, not working, or a combination of both – is a serious matter as it related to balancing a family. I assume that we are all progressive in thoughts as it relates to matters of family matters, but I want to say generally; – regardless of gender, most people hope to attain a career that is rewarding, yet allows sufficient time to spend with ...
By Chanda Causer • 11 years ago

…but I am doing it all!

It took me a few months, but I finally got around to reading the much talked about article from the Atlantic, “Why Women Still Can’t Have It All,” by Anne Slaughter. My overall reaction was, “Bravo Wonder Woman, Bravo! You certainly out did yourself.  Now go sit down, you’re stressing me out.” In all fairness, her reflection wasn’t for my types, it was intended for the upper echelon of society, in her own words, “I am writing for my demographic—highly educated, well-off women who are privileged enough to have choices in the first place. We may not have choices about whether to do paid work, as dual incomes have become indispensable. But we have choices about the type and tempo of ...

It took me a few months, but I finally got around to reading the much talked about article from the Atlantic, “Why Women Still Can’t Have It All,” by Anne Slaughter. My overall reaction was, “Bravo Wonder ...