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The Question Is, What’s Wrong With Us?


A SYTYCB entry

“What’s Wrong With A Boy Who Wears A Dress?” asked The New York Times magazine on its cover last week.  Despite that the flippant headline sacrifices sensitivity for salability, at least it’s shedding light on the subject.  I know so many men and boys and trans individuals who wear dresses for so many different reasons, and they do it a lot more than mainstream movies, TV, and advertising suggest.

(When I asked him why he likes regularly wearing his wife’s nightgowns, one man shrugged, “It’s comfy.”)

The Times article has its flaws.  When discussing how boys who wear dresses turn out later in life, the article stuffs them into three overly simplistic boxes: a) gay, b) heterosexual, and c) transsexual.  Such labels do not encompass all the ways and reasons people of various gender identities and sexualities wear dresses into adulthood.  As one friend observed, “The path of least resistance for so many is to wear dresses in secret.  By using these limiting categories, the article implies that and also does nothing to change that.”  The use of the categories also implies that these individuals owe us a clear-cut, sex-based explanation for their behavior, which is itself a symptom of narrow mindedness.  No one demands a woman explain why she likes wearing jeans.

And yet the article also keeps its subjects silent.  While documenting the struggles of both conservative and liberal parents, the author would have been wise to include the perspective ...

Get the Woman-Haters Outta There, Once and For All

A SYTYCB Entry

Anyone who supports a woman’s right to make her own reproductive choices acknowledges that there is no right way for everyone.  As Jos pointed out this week, there are many, many reasons for having an abortion and for being pro-choice.  It will only help the cause of reproductive freedom if we recognize that there are also many, many reasons for being anti-choice.  The more we sort them out, the better chance we have at addressing them.

Many in the disability rights movement fear an ableist culture that encourages women to have children as long as they’re not the wrong kind of children.  (This fear is particularly strong here in Germany on both sides of the political spectrum.)  ...

A SYTYCB Entry

Anyone who supports a woman’s right to make her own reproductive choices acknowledges that there is no right way for everyone.  As Jos pointed out this week, there are many, many reasons for ...