Thanks for sharing these. This is some of the funniest examination of television trends that I've ever seen, and it's great on a Monday morning.

And I'm totally jealous of how funny Sarah Haskins is.

Sara Haskins is my new favorite person.

ahhahahaha!!! "ARG, I Doooooo"

Wait, I thought women weren't supposed to be funny????

But the thing about weddings that drives me crazy is everyone is supposed to be busy shaming brides for being selfish and vain or getting mad over little things or spending SO MUCH MONEY, when really wedding cost so much because people expect so much from them and brides flip out and have princess complexes because they are trained from birth to think that it is THE MOST IMPORTANT day of their life and it must be PERFECT and it'll be the only time ever when they get exactly what they want. Given all that, turns out brides aren't crazy at all! Seems pretty logical to me.

That gave me lolz. She's hilarious, and it's all so true. I like the "get it through your obese head" thing... that woman was not big at all! She was thin (maybe to my standards). Give anyone an outfit way too small, it will pinch their flesh and you can convince them they're "bulging" out of it. And even if she was "big", so what? Get a dress that fits! They're out there! Bleeeehhhh

I got to say. I don't really see what the big deal is about women watching wedding shows on TV. If the channel WE is showing this type of stuff it means that women want to see it. So who is really to blame? Is it the people producing these shows or the women watching them? I understand that these type of shows exploit women's insecurities but this isn't something that is gender specific. My point is that these shows wouldn't be popular if women weren't the ones watching them because I can almost guarantee that the demographic are not men.

You know what's kind of funny? As soon as I saw Sarah Haskins (the comedian) at the beginning, I just had to have some yoghurt! It's a good thing that I'm already married. I'm so suggestable, who knows what I'd do the next time I saw a video by her?

Incidentally, when I got married, I just got a dress that fit from the get-go. It worked out really well for me and I got to enjoy food up to and even after my wedding. Like raspberry yoghurt. Mmmmm... Good stuff.

I think I love this sarah haskins girl too :)

Hilarious! Where can I watch more of this woman's commentary?

omg i am dying laughing.

brilliant.

She's so funny. I love this segment. Are there more? I have seen the yogurt one in addition to this one.

So, John, because some women watch them, women are to blame as a whole, and feministing should what, not complain, put down its feminist lense, and remove the video?

To be fair, I think John makes a valid point, but based on his tone, I suspect that his point would lead him in a different direction than it might lead me.

His point (as I see it) is yet further evidence for how toxic our culture is. Do some women watch these shows because women just naturally fantasize about being spoiled princesses, or have they been mindfucked so bad by culture and upbringing to make this the case?

John: Your logic that women have brought these television shows on themselves by watching them is extremely faulty. The point being made by commenters here is that women are sold, from a very young age, impossible expectations for and an expectation that they be obsessed about their weddings. Your comment was akin to saying that women are responsible for the bogus beauty standards we are held to because some women buy makeup and high heels. Always remember that making women feel shitty about themselves is a multi-billion dollar industry.

Yeah, if I ever get married, I'm inviting 10 people max and wearing a vintage party dress. We'll have homemade cupcakes afterward and the whole thing will cost like $200. I couldn't handle the stress and scrutiny of "being a bride."

Oh, flackette, marry me. After seeing a $100,000 wedding with nearly 300 guests the idea of getting married in the future terrifies me because of the concept that a wedding needs to cost more than multiple cars.

And this was a very funny video. Subtle at the right times, and going all out to make the funny work. Superb video editing, too. The transitioning is done flawlessly. I guess that's just my inner film geek coming out, but I have to give some props to the people who edited that vid.

Oh. My. God.
That "Aisle of Shame" thing can NOT be real. Kill me now.

LOL. That was great.

These days you hear the word "Bridezilla" thrown around for every woman who attempts to assert herself if she's anyway near about to have a wedding. For example, I was called one when I got upset about my wallet and camera being stolen at our wedding. I was called one again when I got mad at the brother-in-law and a groomsman for smoking pot (at a church) instead of ushering guests, as they were supposed to. I was called one again when I threw out a family member in an effort to prevent a fight during the reception. There's usually backstory and I'm sure the show is edited to miss all kinds of family nuances for the sake of sensationalism. Because, after all, it's far more fun to make fun of the "hysterical bride."

So with the last show, why couldn't the bride just get a dress that either fits or that could be altered to fit? You'd think that after spending hundreds to thousands of dollars on a dress she could spring for a seamstress so it fits properly.

Haha, my sister-in-law had that same exact dress! The Cinderella lace-up thing.

She also had Cinderella/Prince Charming all over her invitation and programs. It weirded me out to think of my brother as Prince Charming.

And she's a smart girl...engineering degree and served in clubs at university. And still she goes for the "save me" role stereotype. :(

If the dress doesn't fit then just go up a size. I had no idea it HAD to be that complicated.

Hahaha she should do one on Lifetime movies.

Though I love Lifetime movies, so maybe not...

Ridiculous consumerism shows... all I can do is laugh at these people!

Sarah H is a funny gal!!! :)

Weddings are insane! I had a lady once look at my hand and asked if I was married or single?! I said SINGLE and HAPPY to be, thank you very much! I had another lady ask me if I was single, married or dating and I said...FREE! Our society is outta wack with thinking you need to be married or have a companion to be so called "complete."

"when really wedding cost so much because people expect so much from them and brides flip out and have princess complexes because they are trained from birth to think that it is THE MOST IMPORTANT day of their life and it must be PERFECT and it'll be the only time ever when they get exactly what they want."

Some of that's left over from when girls couldn't look forward to any other big turning points like graduation, driver's licenses, first paychecks, etc. so while a boy's anticipation would be more evenly spread out his sister's would be focused more on getting married, right?

"You'd think that after spending hundreds to thousands of dollars on a dress she could spring for a seamstress so it fits properly."

Either that or she didn't have enough left over for any custom tailoring? o_O

"If the dress doesn't fit then just go up a size. I had no idea it HAD to be that complicated."

It can be that complicated even for regular office wear. :/ For example, when a pair of slacks or a suit skirt are too big for my waist and too small for my hips at the same time, just going up a size doesn't exactly help...

Mina - and I thought I was the only one!

The fact of the matter is that consumers don't drive what gets made for TV, they drive what STAYS on TV. The actual concepts, production etc. happens without the mass number of viewers that later come out of the woodwork. Usually, these viewers appear thanks to a whole heap of money being thrown behind prime-time advertising, and in this case probably a lot of research to see what people are most sensitive/self-conscious about. They target these things very conscientiously and specifically so as to increase audiences, and the structure of these programs is also very carefully made so that it seems more like a sitcom than a documentary, making it easier for people to watch and, coincidentally, judge.

So the ball keeps rolling and women judge other women (usually due to the voiceovers by a male voice in a condescending tone) and then those women believe they'll be judged by.. well.. everyone.. so then they become sensitive about their weddings, blah blah blah the vicious cycle continues.

The question is: Who will save us? My guess.. Wonder Woman. Yep. Well, her or a mass movement of female advertising executives taking a stand and hoping that their clients don't get sick of their feminist viewpoints and switch to male advertising execs.. Hmm I'm starting to depress myself, I'll stop now.

That was freaking hilarious. She needs to make some more of these for my immediate entertainment.
My best friend is getting married and I never knew how girly she could be before she got engaged.
Mina, wedding dress alterations are pretty much par for the course. When you're obsessing over every detail, you don't want armpit flab hanging over your dress.

"It can be that complicated even for regular office wear. :/ For example, when a pair of slacks or a suit skirt are too big for my waist and too small for my hips at the same time, just going up a size doesn't exactly help..."

I get what you're saying, I just find it completely ridiculous that they felt it necessary to call her a "chubster" then ridicule what she ate (she was a very thin girl) instead of settling on an alternative option that didn't degrade her.

And this is why I don't watch shit like this. Just something else to sucker women into thinking their wedding day is the most important day of their lives and everything has to be perfect and spend, spend, spend. FTS!

And it is a huge mindfuck to suggest the perfectly normal bride work her way down into a dress one size too small. The only saving grace is that they weren't suggesting surgery.

Sarah Haskins should have her own show. Does she know how much Feministing loves her??

Sarah Haskins' take on Bridezilla made me laugh out loud. Now I want to see a Bridezilla vs. Mom-Ra kaiju battle.

Personally, the only wedding show I ever watched was My Fabulous Gay Wedding, and that had Scott Thompson in it.

Bridezilla is especially vile because they hold these women up simultaneously as objects of ridicule and role models. "Please be like this so we can hate you for being like that."

Shiftercat: "Personally, the only wedding show I ever watched was My Fabulous Gay Wedding, and that had Scott Thompson in it."

Har, me too. Aaaand that's how I found out one of my college freshman crushes was gay. Halfway through the televised wedding ceremony my brain went *click* and I figured out why one of the grooms looked so darn familiar. *sigh*

At least now I don't have to feel bad about never getting up the nerve to ask him out, right? :P

"Sarah Haskins' take on Bridezilla made me laugh out loud. Now I want to see a Bridezilla vs. Mom-Ra kaiju battle."

Wouldn't that be Momthra? ;) Also, don't forget Groomonster: http://www.bridefu.com/2007/05/31/the-male-bridezilla/

I remember this exchange from my sister's wedding:

Wedding coord. (fluttering around, to my sister): Now, don't be nervous, everything is going fine, oh wait, the bridesmaids are out with the guests, let me go get them--
Sister: It's fine. The ceremony doesn't start for 15 minutes.
WC: Can I get you anything? You look nervous you shouldn't be worried, I know this is an exciting day and it looks like the groomsman isn't ready yet, but I'm sure things will work out.
Sister: I'm not nervous.
WC--Goes on inanely for another three minutes.
Sister: I think I need some alone time to center myself. (WC takes hint and leaves.)
Sister: (To me) what is UP with that woman?

When you're obsessing over every detail, you don't want armpit flab hanging over your dress.

Ah Jeebus, my PITS have flab?

this is why i am so glad i made the decision three years ago to cut cable from my life.

i cannot believe those shows are real. creepy.

"I remember this exchange from my sister's wedding:

"Wedding coord. (fluttering around, to my sister): Now, don't be nervous, everything is going fine, oh wait, the bridesmaids are out with the guests, let me go get them--
Sister: It's fine. The ceremony doesn't start for 15 minutes.
WC: Can I get you anything? You look nervous you shouldn't be worried, I know this is an exciting day and it looks like the groomsman isn't ready yet, but I'm sure things will work out.
Sister: I'm not nervous.
WC--Goes on inanely for another three minutes.
Sister: I think I need some alone time to center myself. (WC takes hint and leaves.)
Sister: (To me) what is UP with that woman?"

Wow. o_O Now I'm wondering, what if your sister had told the WC "You sound nervous, I think you need some alone time to center yourself"?

Mina: "Mom-Ra" was how she pronounced it in the video. :)

Other articles I've seen on the male equivalent just called him "Groomzilla".

Hmm. Groomera?

"Hmm. Groomera?"

:) I did a search for "bridezilla" and "groomera," and found this: http://www.whiterose.org/wedding/bridezilla.html

I love this!! I wish there were a way to buy DVD's of all the clips used on feministing!

Mina: that link is awesome! I especially like the "original Japanese" titles.

"Mina: that link is awesome! I especially like the 'original Japanese' titles."

Thanks!

None of these shows can be real! Please tell me they're sitcom parodies. PLEASE.

...because how are any of the women there overweight or fat? Why do they need "tons" of work?

WHA? :O

*advocates for Asian weddings, where most of the money is spent on food. Mmm food.*