How do I deal with this?

I have a friend. She is amazing. I love her.

I don’t know how to say it but I should probably come straight to the point. One of my closest friends was raped when she was 12. She never told about this to anyone as she was too terrified, she thought that if anyone had found out she would have been in trouble, her classmates would have bullied her, noone would have wanted her. She is 26 now. I found out about this horribleness just recently and I want to help her but I don’t know how to go about it now. I don’t even know whether I should talk about it with her or is it just going to bring back all the bad memories to her. She is clinically depressed and has eating problems, she is very fragile. I really want to do something to help her but I feel absolutely clueless.

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