Amy Poehler on hard news weeks

This week’s “Ask Amy” is called “I Love You Boston,” but it’s really about the larger issues of hard news weeks, how to consume media coverage of traumatic events, and self care. It’s full of thought and doubt and empathy and “I don’t know,” all things that a lot of us are feeling today.

I apologise for the lack of transcript – if someone could add one in comments, we’d all be grateful.



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Chloe Angyal is a journalist and scholar of popular culture from Sydney, Australia. She joined the Feministing team in 2009. Her writing about politics and popular culture has been published in The Atlantic, The Guardian, New York magazine, Reuters, The LA Times and many other outlets in the US, Australia, UK, and France. She makes regular appearances on radio and television in the US and Australia. She has an AB in Sociology from Princeton University and a PhD in Arts and Media from the University of New South Wales. Her academic work focuses on Hollywood romantic comedies; her doctoral thesis was about how the genre depicts gender, sex, and power, and grew out of a series she wrote for Feministing, the Feministing Rom Com Review. Chloe is a Senior Facilitator at The OpEd Project and a Senior Advisor to The Harry Potter Alliance. You can read more of her writing at

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  • Jack

    Hi, you’re watching another episode of “Ask Amy.” This question comes from Milly, who is 16.

    “Dear Amy,

    A lot my friends watch videos on the internet that are very popular and get millions of views. I feel like I’m left out if I don’t take part, but they all seem pointless and attention-getting. What can I do to spread better messages?”

    Well, Milly, I’ve been thinking a lot about this or the wider, bigger question of what should we be looking at and watching these days, because, in light of recent events, I’ve – and I’m sure you have, and the rest of the world, if not America – have been looking at photographs that have been really hard to take. I’ve been thinking about what these images do to our brains and our hearts and how we should look at them, and when we should look at them. I think your question of “What do I watch on the internet, how do I find better messages and better images?” is a bigger question of “What do I want my eye to see and how can I keep myself informed and connected without exploiting people and harming myself?”

    I’ve been trying to balance that these days, and it sounds like you have, too. This idea of wanting to be informed and wanting to know the story, and the people behind the story, and also not using images and pictures as a way of superficially connecting to something or getting a reaction from myself, or – I don’t know – just using images and therefore using people.

    I just – I don’t know. It’s been tough, hasn’t it? Doesn’t it feel like we’re just bombarded with stuff now, that everywhere we go there’s just some picture that’s worse than the one before? I wonder if we could soften our hearts and minds and our eyes. I wonder if we could give our eyes a break, maybe try to see things in a different way, try to see things by reading about them or talking about them or listening. I don’t know, I kind of feel like my eyes need a break, don’t you?

    And if you do, then I guess my encouragement to you and to myself would be to take it. That it’s okay to not be looking at what everyone else is looking at all the time, to know what you’re ready to see and not see, and to be okay with letting some things rest in peace.

    Anyway, I don’t know if this makes any sense, but this has been a weird week, hasn’t it? So, thanks, Milly. And I love you, Boston. See you soon!

    • Lori

      Thanks so much Jack!

      • Jack

        No problem!