The personal is political: Our feminist new year’s resolutions for 2013

Ed note: This is the last in a series of posts summarizing the year in online feminism and looking forward to 2013. View the most highly trafficked posts of the year here, check out some of our favorite in-house posts here, and click here to view our favorite posts of 2012 from around the Internet. 
Check out our resolutions for 2013. Leave your resolutions in the comments!
Personal: Get off the internet more. Sorry, love you all, but did you know there’s a real world out there that’s kinda nice to experience one in a while?!
External: Help build more and stronger connections between the Feministing community and smaller blogs, activists, and thinkers doing important and too-often unrecognized work.
Personal: Do less. I’ve totally got Perfect Girl Having It All Syndrome. My big goal in 2013 is to slow down and not try to make it all happen at once. Of course, I’ve already got way too many plans for the year than I can probably accomplish, so we’ll see how that goes…
External: Help make Feministing more sustainable. Oh, and there’s the constant project of of continuing to challenge the feminist community to incorporate a gender analysis that goes beyond the compulsory gender binary (this can be over someday maybe please?)
Personal: Self-care.
External: Help make the online feminist movement a more sustainable, more innovative and more empowered space for social justice work. #femfuture
Personal: Quit beating myself up for shit that doesn’t matter, and think about why I am doing it rather than doing it!
External: Do some serious learning on identity politics, why they matter, and why they completely don’t.
Personal: Meditate. I discovered this amazing practice years ago and it really transformed me and brought me to where I am. But I have much further to go and I need to recommit to meditating.
External: Re-commit to reading. 2 books per month!
Personal: Forgive myself for the sexism I’ve internalized and direct at myself. I certainly need to keep deconstructing and resisting these impulses, but none of us are immune to our environment, and beating myself up doesn’t help.
External: Destroy the patriarchy. I think that has to be our goal every year until it’s done, right?
Personal: More exercise. Did I just say that? Yes, I did. For the way it makes me feel… mostly.
External: More time reading feminist blogs.
Personal: ‘Luckily you’re not perfect…but you’re wise enough to know’ – courtesy of up and coming singer/songwriter/lightbrightbrills Shira E. It’s kinda been my mantra. And eat more Kale.
External: Writing and finalizing a book project that I’ve been working on for the past couple of years. Refine my teaching practice. Make more art. It’s not election year but it doesn’t mean we should ignore forces that seek to suppress votes for the next.
Personal: Make more time to cultivate the relationships that matter. Lead by example. Be my authentic self, especially in places where it’s the hardest.
External: Wow, I’m impressed by Sesali’s 2 books per month goal! I’m going to hop on that bandwagon and re-commit to reading as well.

Brooklyn, NY

Lori Adelman started blogging with Feministing in 2008, and now runs partnerships and strategy as a co-Executive Director. She is also the Director of Youth Engagement at Women Deliver, where she promotes meaningful youth engagement in international development efforts, including through running the award-winning Women Deliver Young Leaders Program. Lori was formerly the Director of Global Communications at Planned Parenthood Federation of America, and has also worked at the United Nations Foundation on the Secretary-General's flagship Every Woman Every Child initiative, and at the International Women’s Health Coalition and Human Rights Watch. As a leading voice on women’s rights issues, Lori frequently consults, speaks and publishes on feminism, activism and movement-building. A graduate of Harvard University, Lori has been named to The Root 100 list of the most influential African Americans in the United States, and to Forbes Magazine‘s list of the “30 Under 30” successful mediamakers. She lives in Brooklyn, NY.

Lori Adelman is an Executive Director of Feministing in charge of Partnerships.

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