Quick hit: know any gays against gay marriage?


This just in: The National Organization for Marriage, also known as Gay-Haters Against Civil Rights, is now courting gays in its fight against gay marriage. So spread the word and help them recruit! Because if we learned anything from politics over the last few years, it’s that discriminatory beliefs are much more palatable when they are espoused by a member of the minority group most affected. Oh, and that  divide and conquer ALWAYS works.

(h/t Denis Dison, vice president of communications of The Victory Fund, for the lead. You can follow Denis on Twitter @denisdison.)

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  • http://feministing.com/members/timidatheist/ Timid Atheist

    There are some who, while not against gay marriage, are against marriage as a whole and the narrow definition and the restrictions and special rights that marriage gives. Looking up Beyond Marriage on whatever search engine you prefer gives some results that detail what that group is looking for and how they believe that marriage equality isn’t worth it because there are still so many groups and families that don’t benefit simply because they aren’t married. They view marriage as a special privilege that should be done away with or should become something more inclusive. Examples are single parent homes, grandparents or aunts and uncles taking care of children, and even retirement communities where the residents look after one another.

    I think marriage for anyone who wants it is a good step forward and a good way to start changing the system for the better. Hopefully NOM will simply chase their tails with this newest endeavor.

    • http://feministing.com/members/diciembres/ Bobby

      This. For my Feminist Theory capstone course my final essay was a queer analysis of same-sex marriage, and I approached it from this angle. Two of my biggest sources were Beyond (Straight and Gay) Marriage by Nancy Polikoff and Against Equality: Queer Critiques of Gay Marriage.

  • http://feministing.com/members/amck/ AMM

    Back in the 1980’s, there seemed to be a lot of gay people who opposed gay marriage. They considered the sexual promiscuity common in gay (male) culture of the time to be one of the ways that gay culture was superior to straight culture, and that gay marriage would be a step backwards, an adoption of a heterosexist institution that would damage gay culture.

    I haven’t heard that point of view much any more. I can’t help wondering if the AIDS epidemic put an end to it, by making promiscuity seem like less of a good idea and by making sort of legal recognition for relationships seem more necessary. But then, I’ve had somewhat less contact with the urban gay community in recent years, too.