Valentine’s Rape Culture

Here is a story that blew my mind.

A girl at BYU was on campus Valentine’s day when she was handed a note that read:

“You may want to consider that what you’re wearing has a negative effect on men (and women) around you. Many people come to this university because they feel safe, morally as well as physically, here. They expect others to abide by the Honor Code that we all agreed on. Please consider your commitment to the Honor Code (which you agreed to) when dressing each day. Thank you.”

The anonymous author was gone before the girl could read the note or respond and left no identifying information. The first question that sprang to many people’s minds was what was she wearing, but I want to know how her dress makes anyone morally and especially physically unsafe. So, guy, if you’re out there, I want to tell you something: the only thing that makes me fear for this girl’s safety is you. You because you apparently think your moral safety is threatened by her dress. If you are not capable of behaving morally around a woman who hasn’t dressed herself according to your –or BYU’s– honor code (as many women you meet in life will) and you’re worried for her or your physical safety and the negative effect her dress has on you GET HELP. For the safety of everyone, GET HELP. And no, passing creepy notes is NOT helping.