Affirmative consent is hot

Topless Ryan Gosling says Hey girl, Yes means yes.

Yes Means Yes gets the Feminist Ryan Gosling treatment. He can ask me for consent any day.

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Jos Truitt is Executive Director of Development at Feministing. She joined the team in July 2009, became an Editor in August 2011, and Executive Director in September 2013. She writes about a range of topics including transgender issues, abortion access, and media representation. Jos first got involved with organizing when she led a walk out against the Iraq war at her high school, the Boston Arts Academy. She was introduced to the reproductive justice movement while at Hampshire College, where she organized the Civil Liberties and Public Policy Program’s annual reproductive justice conference. She has worked on the National Abortion Federation’s hotline, was a Field Organizer at Choice USA, and has volunteered as a Pro-Choice Clinic Escort. Jos has written for publications including The Guardian, Bilerico, RH Reality Check, Metro Weekly, and the Columbia Journalism Review. She has spoken and trained at numerous national conferences and college campuses about trans issues, reproductive justice, blogging, feminism, and grassroots organizing. Jos completed her MFA in Printmaking at the San Francisco Art Institute in Spring 2013. In her "spare time" she likes to bake and work on projects about mermaids.

Jos Truitt is an Executive Director of Feministing in charge of Development.

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  • billy williams

    Goddamn he’s got a nice body,Damn.

  • Smiley

    So, Feministing encourages comments about a man’s body, but does not tolerate similar comments on a woman’s?

    You’re going to have to educate me.

    Oh, and one is allowed to judge a guy based on his body?

    • natasha

      I was wondering the same thing. However, personally I’m fine with eye candy in media as long as it doesn’t cross the line into objectification. My interpretation of objectification means stripping the person of their humanity in order to value the way they look, not valuing the way they look in and of itself. I was trying to figure out where this post was falling on my own personal scale, but then I saw the objectification tag. Is this supposed to be a joke? Because if so, this seems sexist. I’m pretty sure Feministing wouldn’t show something similar with a woman, and would object to this kind of thing with a woman, so I see this as a problem.

    • honeybee

      Oh course one is allowed to judge a guy based on his body. You can judge someone on anything – where did feminists ever give a checklist of what criteria you’re allowed to be attracted to people on?

      Everyone has different likes and preferences, and we all agree that attraction is fundamental to relationships. You are obviously allowed to find people attractive, look at people you find attractive, etc. These are normal human behaviours that can’t be stopped even if you try.

      I think the objectification thing is way over thought sometimes, and I think feminists try to overcompensate sometimes by admonishing normal human behaviours for fear of looking like a hypocrite. But in this space especially that shouldn’t be a concern.

    • Stephanie

      Nobody here is objectifying Ryan Gosling. That’s the difference.

      • billy williams

        People commenting on a shirtless body of a guy sounds like objectification to me,Not that that’s a bad thing.

  • billy williams

    If a skinny,bikini clad woman were in a yes means yes campaign & that picture were being talked about as hot,Wouldn’t that be objectification?–What’s the difference?