Hello Feministing!

somyaSo, this marks my first Feministing blog post. My name is Somya, (pronounced So?-me-uh) and I’m a rising sophomore at Bowdoin College. I’m a Government & Legal Studies major (which is the Bowdoin way of saying Political Science), with a potential Gender & Women’s studies minor.

For an obscure liberal arts school, Bowdoin is teeming with an extraordinary amount of jocks and people who wish they were jocks. In any case, we take pride in our sports, our food (number #1 college dining!), and the fact that everybody is from ‘just outside Boston.’ Bowdoin is located in the city of Brunswick, Maine. It doesn’t matter that the trees outnumber people, or the tallest building is 9 stories high – the fact that Brunswick has over 500 people in it makes a city, by Maine standards. All things aside, though, Bowdoin is a great school, and I’ve loved being in Maine – where people actually stop and let you cross the street without trying to run you over (hint: you could learn a few Maine tricks New York drivers).

As a college freshmen, I discovered, to my horror, that I was much more naive than I’d expected. During my first semester, I enrolled in Sociology 101, taught by a professor who I hated, and was a self-described feminist – not that those two things are related, of course. It was her class that inducted me into feminism. We spent entire classes discussing how women could get termed a ‘slut’ or a ‘whore,’ while men were lauded as ‘players,’ for landing more girls – how a woman’s sexuality was still taboo, in this day and age. With her words swimming in my head, I began to see the double standard everywhere, the way a woman’s sexuality had to be caged in, like it was some precious glass slipper that needed constant surveillance. I hated that male pronouns could not be interchanged with female pronouns, in statements like “ew, look at her, she gets around,” and “what is she wearing?”

I hated that my male doctor, who I’ve seen for years, lectured me on abstinence, and why sex was evil, to dissuade me from getting an HPV shot. I hated that the same guys who begged a girl for sex, would, once they received it, label her a ‘whore,’ and laugh at how easy she was. But if a girl were to do that – if a girl were to embrace her sexuality (yes, world, women want to have sex too) — she becomes deviant, an anomaly amongst girls who lock their legs (or pretend to, anyway). What is wrong with our world, that these things are acceptable? My blog posts will talk about a woman’s sexuality on college campuses — like these double standards, the concept of having a ‘number,’ even staying a virgin until marriage.

And I promise to try and keep the ranting to a minimum.

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  • http://feministing.com/members/alterantoceanid/ Alterant Oceanid

    Correction: Brunswick’s population is roughly 15,000. And for a state with 1.3 million people, that’s actually a pretty significant “city” even if it’s officially known as a town. We know that Maine’s not a bustling metropolis and most of us recognize that that can be a positive. But most of us resent the implication that we’re all hicks who don’t get city life…when we do have a lot going for our population size and rural atmosphere.

    • Somya

      First, I never implied that Brunswick – or Maine – was filled with ‘hicks.’ I was just pointing out the difference in size compared to what I, having lived by cities all my life, am used to, albeit in a humorous way. Second, if you read the following lines, I discuss how Mainers have been extremely courteous and how much I enjoy going to school there. I didn’t paint Maine – or Brunswick – residents as ‘hicks,’ and I’m sorry if you read it that way.

    • http://feministing.com/members/alterantoceanid/ Alterant Oceanid

      But also, welcome to Feministing!!!! (earlier rant meant to mention this bit!) Sounds like you’ll have some interesting posts from your experiences.

  • http://feministing.com/members/naab/ noor bahman

    I’m from the middle east, and being raised in a male dominated society like mine, gives females the impression that women embracing sexuality is considered as a sin by religion and morality. However men do as they please and are encouraged by society. Fathers deny their daughters freedom and approve of their sons actions whatever they may be. Being an open minded individual, in my opinion I believe these religion-related reasons for female sexuality deprivation are nothing but nonsense and ways for men to control society without female interferance.