Hen’s Night Dilemma

Wondering if any of you fantastic feminists might have some ideas or support. It’s my bridesmaid (bride’s person?) duty to organise the dreaded hen’s night. It’s highly likely that the buck’s party will involve (female) strippers (ick, on a number of levels). Part of me thinks we should get male strippers because if we can’t be equal at least we can be even? But then I realise that’s sort of petty and pointless, though it could be a laugh.

It’s just such a shame that a time when we should be celebrating two people in love and committed to each other has to be degraded like that – at the buck’s OR the hen’s. And at the same time, I don’t want to be a party-pooper if she wants the stereotypical debauched hen’s night (and yes, she does), am I obliged to provide it for her? It’s all about HER not me, after all.

And while we’re on this topic, why do so many women think that it’s fine for her fiancé to go out to strip clubs before their WEDDING?` Isn’t the whole point of getting married because you love that person and you want to show your commitment and fidelity to them? (obviously not all marriages are the same, but for argument’s sake, we’ll say that that’s what most marriages are for.) If they are so damn committed, why do they want to go and have another woman writhing around and taking her clothes off for their arousal and enjoyment? It’s just another example of the “boys will be boys” mentality that lets men off being responsible adults who respect women. Infuriating!!

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