No means no, sometimes.

Apparently, to some people. I was having a discussion with a girl about someone who was aggressive to us.  “Because I was on a date with this guy it seems this makes things different.  If he wants to have sex with me and I say no, and he does anyways, it’s different because we are dating.”  WTF!  Who puts these idea’s into people’s heads?  Aren’t we taught that NO means NO and there IS such thing as date rape and rape can happen to a wife or partner or by someone you know.  Where did this idea that it’s “ok” since we’re dating, for him to rape me?  Not only that but by the way the conversation was going she was trying to convince us that “he’s not a bad guy” and that “maybe he didn’t understand what he was doing”.

It’s not the first time.  My friend was raped by her boyfriend last year when he was intoxicated and she got the whole “well, they were dating” or “well, he was drunk”, and “well, he’s well-respected in the community”.  I was assaulted by my friend two years back and when I told a girlfriend of mine her response was “it’s just *Jim, he’s lonely”.  It’s hard enough to talk about violence, why do our friends and peers make it harder?

Sorry, I didn’t think there was an excuse to such horrible behaviour.  When did people start thinking that there was?