What We Missed

Actress Gabrielle Union blogs in a smart and honest way about the horrific responses to the Richmond rape case, and about her own rape. Via Shakes.
More research shows that comprehensive sex education results in increased condom use among teens and lowers their chances of contracting HIV.
Gawker argues that the woman who shot Maj. Nidal Malik Hasan to stop his shooting spree is solid proof that we need to allow women in combat.
A new UK report finds that institutional racism in England schools prohibits ethnic minorities from being promoted and reaching top posts. 44% of folks reported being discriminated against.
Feminist artist Nancy Spero has died at the age of 83. She has written: “I have come to the conclusion that the art world has to join us, women artists, not we join it. When women are in leadership roles and gain rewards and recognition, then perhaps ‘we’ (women and men) can all work together in art world actions.”

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  • Stephanie

    “I have come to the conclusion that the art world has to join us, women artists, not we join it.” I don’t know why, but at the moment I read it, this quote really struck me. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if the world stopped forcing people to join the mainstream, and instead society worked harder to simply include all people without any request?

  • LalaReina

    Gabby is one of my favorites and I know you can’t say it here but I will I think she is the most stunning woman in Hollywood. And smart to boot.

  • aliciamaud74

    The Gawker article is interesting, and I’m not in disagreement. . . but my own take upon hearing the horribly tragic sad story of so many of military people killed by someone who snapped in part, apparently, at the thought of going to combat in one of several wars we have going at the moment, and the devastating result of ever more people’s lives destroyed in a culture of violence was not that this showed we need more women in combat, but maybe we need LESS COMBAT.
    (Idealistic, I know. But I want my loved ones who are fighting to be able to come home, and to be safe when they get here.)

  • DalekSec

    I am thoroughly impressed with Officer Munley’s valourous actions in stemming this massacre. She’s a true warrior worthy of honour, and an example to others of her stripe.


    Well, as long as we live in the world’s wealthiest and most powerful imperialist country, the “LESS COMBAT” thing is a nice pretty dream that’s simply Not Going To Happen In the Real World.
    As long as America is a major imperialist country, we’re going to have an army – and, as a democratic nation, we should have an army where ALL Americans get to serve, irregardless of gender, race, sexual orientation or any other secondary factor.
    Sgt Kim Munley’s heroism under fire clearly demonstrates that, in a firefight situation, women are just as capable of serving, and getting the job done (using firepower to neutralize the enemy before he/she neutralizes you).

  • FW

    Somehow I ended up on some pro-life abstinence only supporting site earlier that was talking about that sex-ed report and they were totally bummed about the results because basically teens who decide to sin and have sex should have to face the risk of HIV.
    and Gabrielle Union’s post was awesome – and did anyone else read that the only person who called the cops was an 18 year old girl who wasn’t even there but heard about it secondhand? So not even ONE person who actually witnessed it bothered to call the cops.

  • FW
  • PatriarchySlayer

    Did anyone else find the comments section on the article by Gabrielle Union to be a little disturbing? Most of the comments were really supportive. But there was one commenter who decided that the way Gabrielle was living was not right. She mentioned that just because someone is raped doesn’t mean they have to go around and sleep with other women’s men. Keep your legs closed, don’t be slut, etc.
    Now the commenter may have been trolling, but it’s hard to say. If “she” wasn’t, it would be sad thing indeed. I couldn’t believe that someone would be so blatantly ignorant to someone who has been through that. I wanted to tell her to pick up a copy of the Purity Myth while she was at it.

  • Trixen

    For God’s sake no one read the comments on the Gabrielle Union blog. It didn’t take long for someone to call her a slut, nor did it take a while before the ‘What about the menzzz?’ wail went up. Apparently, it will change everything in the world if we just address the sexual abuse and rape of MEN.

  • aliciamaud74

    Yeah, I get it. My post explicitly notes that I realize it’s idealistic AND that I’m not in disagreement with the op, so there’s no need to get condescending with the “pretty little dream”/”real world” nonsense.
    What I’m saying is that the tragedy primarily raised fundamentally different questions for me, including whether it should be anywhere on our list of goals to remain a violent and imperialist nation. It’s not a direction I personally stand behind, and I’m unapologetic about taking the opportunity to consider what things could be like (and the lives we could save) if we were ever enlightened enough to shift those priorities. Race, gender and class equality could be written off as “pretty little dreams”, too, but it doesn’t mean they’re not worth considering AND fighting for.

  • i_muse

    the comment clearly states it’s an idealistic notion:
    “Idealistic, I know. But I want my loved ones who are fighting to be able to come home, and to be safe when they get here”
    After reading that, you still felt compelled to write a “pat on her pretty little head” condescending piece of shit comment.
    That comment sucked.
    I don’t know you, but, I hope you’ll examine your choice to comment like that here.

  • Lucy Gillam

    The comment is actually worse than that. It’s “who’s helping the poor men who just can’t control their urges and therefore are forced to rape.”

  • Trixen

    Ugh, I missed that. I was sort of skimming through them, hoping to miss the worst.
    I went back to look, and yes someone does indeed suggest “trauma centres” for those men who have such enormous “sexual appetites” that they MUST rape! They have no other choice!
    Rape culture? What rape culture? :-(

  • Brittany

    While I can’t say I like Gabrielle Union due to her being the other woman (that’s one of the worst things to be unless you didn’t know he was with someone), I think that she was brave to talk about her experience, and the comments are truly horrific.


    Hey, I was just keeping it real here!
    It’s nice to be idealistic – but it’s always helpful to temper your idealism with a nice healthy dose of reality
    It would be more patronizing for me to let the unrealistic comment go without a comment – we’re not children here, we’re grown adults, and a big part of being a full grown adult is learning how to take criticism

  • aliciamaud74

    So it’s your responsibility to teach me how to be a “full grown adult” and take criticism, even after I already SAID I was aware of the idealism inherent to my comment?
    Huh. I have no idea how anyone could have misread that as condescension. Silly, silly me!!!