Woman vilified for tweeting her relief at miscarriage

This is certainly interesting. A woman who planned an abortion but had a miscarriage instead tweeted the following:
“I’m in a board meeting. Having a miscarriage. Thank goodness, because there’s a f*****-up 3-week hoop-jump to have an abortion in Wisconsin.”
She is being widely criticised for it, being called “a poor excuse for a human being” by some commenters because “other women are devastated by miscarriage” and she’s apparently being selfish by being relieved and using twitter to announce it.
However, the woman, Penelope Trunk, says she has no regrets. She has suffered two miscarriages before and describes them as “inconsolable. The difference was I desperately wanted that baby… it seems like everyone in the world would prefer miscarriage to an abortion, even the pope.”
I think this last comment is very illuminating. The miscarriage would have happened whether she wanted the baby or not. But the fact that she didn’t want it is apparently what makes her a bad person and a selfish woman. The idea of a pregnant woman not wanting the child she would give birth to, or even one that she has given birth to already, is something much more widespread than people like to admit, and it makes people uncomfortable to think of it. But I am with this poster who said: “You are shining a light into areas which many share but go unexposed.”

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