“Experiencing an ailment of any kind? You’re probably pregnant.”

I’ve noticed that too often, I will complain to someone of some sort of ailment, and their first thought is that I am probably pregnant. Seriously, anything– "my stomach feels a little off," "I’m tired," "my head hurts." While of course being pregnant is technically a possibility, I find it sexist that people’s immediate thought is that whatever I’m experiencing must be based in something female-specific. Like, "well, you’re female and you have a headache, therefore the headache must be related to being female." It’s especially stupid because while it’s true that my listed ailments could potentially be symptoms of pregnancy (this is really lazy thinking, by the way– pregnancy symptoms are so varied from woman to woman that you could make a lazy case for pretty much anything being a symptom of pregnancy), they are such common aches or pains that they could be caused by any number of factors. Couldn’t my headache or tiredness could have to do with my being a college student? Or with job stress? Or my nightly downing of 13 beers in periods of 3 hours or less?

The pregnancy assumption is Othering, and is just one more way that people equate women with some sort of baby-producing machine. "Anything women do or experience is related to having babies."

Has anyone else experienced this?

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