Tired of being a “skinny bitch”

So, I notice this often, and I’m really, really sick of it.
I hear it here occasionally, actually in many places where women come together to talk about being women.
We’ve all heard of fat-shaming, but ever heard of skinny-shaming?
I am a naturally small woman. I am tall, I am skinny, and I’m fucking healthy. I weigh 115 lbs. I’m 5’8, I wear an A cup, I even wear a size 2 in jeans.
I guess that makes me a bitch. Or worse yet, a skinny bitch.
I have something to say to all of you or anyone who would insult me because of my size.


I -am- a real woman thank you; I have a vaginia just like you. I have a period, just like those of us that have a uterus, or are pre-menopause. If that doesn’t make me a real woman what does?
I am tired of being insulted, talked down to and my personal experiences being derided just because I’m skinny, naturally.
Words hurt just as much if you are being called a fat cow, or “fucking anorexic” your whole life.
Or being objectified because you have large breasts, or being called “boyish” because you have small breasts.
Yes, clothes are -just- as hard to find if you are as small as I am.
Even increasingly harder as America wakes up and realizes not all women fall between a size four and a size eight.
I am tired of being told to “eat a fucking sandwich” or eat fatty food, or my fave of all “I’ll bet you never eat”.
One, if I never ate I’d be dead.
Two, I bet I can out snarf you at a pie eating contest; I actually eat more than my boyfriend.
Three I’ll eat a fucking salad if I want to, I like them!
So, to sum all this up? Are you a big woman, fat or whatever you want to call it? Awesome! I won’t insult you for not fitting society’s beauty standard, don’t insult me for fitting them.

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