Dennis Prager: Nothing says “I love you” like marital rape

It takes a certain je ne sais quoi to unabashedly argue in favor of marital rape. Of course columnist Dennis Prager doesn’t call it that. No no, he prefers to use some sort of bizarre high school logic about how ladies who really love their man will “give her body” on demand.

It is an axiom of contemporary marital life that if a wife is not in the mood, she need not have sex with her husband. Here are some arguments why a woman who loves her husband might want to rethink this axiom.

And here I thought the “if you really loved me” argument was only relegated to after-school specials! How wrong I was.

First, women need to recognize how a man understands a wife’s refusal to have sex with him: A husband knows that his wife loves him first and foremost by her willingness to give her body to him. This is rarely the case for women. Few women know their husband loves them because he gives her his body (the idea sounds almost funny).

Haha, because the ideas of men’s bodies as commodities is ridiculous, of course! Outside of the insulting notion that men only recognize love through sex, Prager also seems to think that sex is simply about women “giving” their bodies to men. (In fact, he writes some variation of the phrase “give your body” or “deprive your body” multiple times in the article.) The idea that sex could be a mutually enjoyable and wanted expression of love is lost on the dude. Which is actually pretty sad.
Prager goes on to write that men are no more than animals, and that “every man who is sexually faithful to his wife already engages in daily heroic self-control.” (Seriously.) But don’t worry, gals, Prager has a sensitive side:

Of course, there are times when a man must simply refrain from initiating sex out of concern for his wife’s physical or emotional condition.

Talk about a keeper!
Yes Means Yes contributor (and long-time Feministing commenter) Thomas actually has a great essay that gets to the heart of what’s wrong with Prager’s ideas about sex:

We live in a culture where sex is not so much an act as a thing: a substance that can be given, bought, sold, or stolen, that has a value and a supply-and-demand curve. In this “commodity model,” sex is like a ticket; women have it and men try to get it.

In this case, Prager seems to believe that men have an inherent right to the whole frigging box office.
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