Quick Hit: Waiter Weirdness

I went to dinner last night at a pretty nice place and the waiter kept referring to be in the third person:

“Does the lady want any dessert?”
“Does she like her wine?”
“Is the soup to her liking?”

He did not refer to my male companion in the third person and it was sort of hard to tell whether he was directing these questions at me or my dinner date.
Can someone please explain this to me? Am I somehow made invisible or mute by having a vagina? Was I zapped back into 1952 without realizing it? Did the waiter expect my friend to order for me? Was he shocked when a lady opened her own mouth and real live words came out describing real independent choices?
Note to waiters: Not cool.