Elementary Dating

I was watching the news in Dallas last night, and I saw a segment about a nine year old boy named Alex Greven who wrote a book about dating called "How to Talk to Girls."
What initially caught my attention was not that a 9 year old boy is being touted as a dating guru, but how adults are treating him like some prodigy. The news achors and his teacher were simply amazed at his ability to parrot back sterotypes about heterosexual dating norms. I don’t see this kid as being particularly precocious or intuitive just because he can articulate what he observes from watching tween sitcoms on the Disney Channel. The book is chock full of such gems as "About 75% of regular girls ditch boys; 98% of pretty girls ditch boys." WTF? First of all, where the hell did this statistic come from and futhermore, how many times has this kid told a classmate whether or not she was a "regular girl" or a "pretty girl"? Now I know what people will say: "What’s the big deal? It’s just a cute, harmless little thing." "You don’t have to analyze every little thing from a feminist standpoint." I think it IS important. This kid’s book was sold at his school’s book fair and now he’s got a deal with Harper Collins. It won’t take long till it’s a part of the assigned reading in elementary schools. Since it’s written for kids by kids, it’s given a higher authoritative value. He describes getting the girl that you have a crush on as "winning the victory." He goes on to say "Winning the victory is a dream for most boys, but it is very rare." My feathers would be less ruffled if he had talked about the fact that boys and girls are interested in a lot of the same things or that a boy and a girl can be just friends without romantic undertones. Go to the link and check out the excerpt. What do you think about little Romeos and their pigtailed Juliets?

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