The price of being mucho macho

Robert Jensen, a journalism professor at the University of Texas at Austin, had a really interesting piece in Alternet last week, The High Cost of Manliness.
Jensen says that the idea of masculinity has to go.

That dominant conception of masculinity in U.S. culture is easily summarized: Men are assumed to be naturally competitive and aggressive, and being a real man is therefore marked by the struggle for control, conquest and domination…
If masculinity is defined as conquest, it means that men will always struggle with each other for dominance. In a system premised on hierarchy and power, there can be only one king of the hill. Every other man must in some way be subordinated to the king, and the king has to always be nervous about who is coming up that hill to get him. A friend who once worked on Wall Street — one of the preeminent sites of masculine competition — described coming to work as like walking into a knife fight when all the good spots along the wall were taken. Masculinity like this is life lived as endless competition and threat.
No one man created this system, and perhaps none of us, if given a choice, would choose it. But we live our lives in that system, and it deforms men, narrowing our emotional range and depth. It keeps us from the rich connections with others — not just with women and children, but other men — that make life meaningful but require vulnerability.

I often find myself arguing with guy friends about feminism, trying to explain the whole “patriarchy hurts men too� thing. And while they’re open to it—and they generally do agree with me—I’ve always felt like they would be keener on the conversation if it were with, well, a man.
After all, in a society that hates women, men aren’t very likely to look to us as experts in much of anything—let alone masculinity. So I think it’s really important that men like Jensen start this discussion. (This isn’t to say that I think women should abandon talking to men about feminism and the patriarchy, I just think that pro-feminist men may be our best allies in this particular venture.) Thoughts?
UPDATE: Hugo has more.